Comments on: Give a child a fish… http://attachedmama.net/2008/11/18/give-a-child-a-fish/ A person's a person, no matter how small Thu, 10 Nov 2011 05:47:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: AttachedMama http://attachedmama.net/2008/11/18/give-a-child-a-fish/comment-page-1/#comment-153 AttachedMama Fri, 21 Nov 2008 20:21:15 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=71#comment-153 Haha, your comment made me laugh just imagining that. I agree though, it would make it much harder to enjoy a visit in that case. The other side of the story of course is when we go visiting and the host/hostess has breakable things within reach, or items they don't want Meredith to look at, and expect us to be constantly trying to divert her attention away. It's not fair to her and again makes the visit more stressful for everyone. I appreciate when we're visiting somewhere if people put anything breakable or that they really are worried about out of reach, and otherwise if Meredith is looking at something and I'm right there with her, to trust that we won't damage anything! Haha, your comment made me laugh just imagining that. I agree though, it would make it much harder to enjoy a visit in that case. The other side of the story of course is when we go visiting and the host/hostess has breakable things within reach, or items they don’t want Meredith to look at, and expect us to be constantly trying to divert her attention away. It’s not fair to her and again makes the visit more stressful for everyone. I appreciate when we’re visiting somewhere if people put anything breakable or that they really are worried about out of reach, and otherwise if Meredith is looking at something and I’m right there with her, to trust that we won’t damage anything!

]]> By: Annie http://attachedmama.net/2008/11/18/give-a-child-a-fish/comment-page-1/#comment-154 Annie Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:10:03 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=71#comment-154 I like how your post turned out too. It would have been funny to see two of the same posts at the same time. Hey, I did that with Paxye one time. Ha. We don't have any baby proofing here at all so I agree that it's easier to have kids that are used to the freedom to open doors and use things. Otherwise the freedom is a novelty that doesn't wear off fast enough! Ha. Not only that but the parents are usually freaked out if they're near anything (my stove, plugs, stairs, knives...) and that makes me jumpy too! It's like having a heart attack every 10 minutes when the parent jumps up and freaks out. Very hard to relax and enjoy a visit like that. The kids also seem to be more ill at ease. I like how your post turned out too. It would have been funny to see two of the same posts at the same time. Hey, I did that with Paxye one time. Ha.

We don’t have any baby proofing here at all so I agree that it’s easier to have kids that are used to the freedom to open doors and use things. Otherwise the freedom is a novelty that doesn’t wear off fast enough! Ha. Not only that but the parents are usually freaked out if they’re near anything (my stove, plugs, stairs, knives…) and that makes me jumpy too! It’s like having a heart attack every 10 minutes when the parent jumps up and freaks out. Very hard to relax and enjoy a visit like that. The kids also seem to be more ill at ease.

]]> By: AttachedMama http://attachedmama.net/2008/11/18/give-a-child-a-fish/comment-page-1/#comment-152 AttachedMama Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:16:57 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=71#comment-152 Ha that's funny! I actually started it out as a post on "No" but it evolved. I was going to rewrite it and try to keep it more on topic but decided I liked how it turned out in the end. Plus it's more honest of my thoughts anyway when I post it without editing too much. :) But yes, it always amazes me when I see other parents spending so much time trying to keep something away from their kids, yet it takes so little time to show them how to use something safely. I actually prefer to have other kids in my house who come from non-babyproofed houses as I find they are way more respectful and gentle with our things than a kid who isn't given much freedom to explore these things. Ha that’s funny! I actually started it out as a post on “No” but it evolved. I was going to rewrite it and try to keep it more on topic but decided I liked how it turned out in the end. Plus it’s more honest of my thoughts anyway when I post it without editing too much. :)

But yes, it always amazes me when I see other parents spending so much time trying to keep something away from their kids, yet it takes so little time to show them how to use something safely. I actually prefer to have other kids in my house who come from non-babyproofed houses as I find they are way more respectful and gentle with our things than a kid who isn’t given much freedom to explore these things.

]]> By: Annie http://attachedmama.net/2008/11/18/give-a-child-a-fish/comment-page-1/#comment-151 Annie Thu, 20 Nov 2008 00:58:33 +0000 http://www.attachedmama.net/?p=71#comment-151 Great post. Of course you know that I agree. I sometimes still think of Meredith as that little baby in the video! She's so adorable. When I first started reading you post I thought we were on the same weird wave length in that I just finished writing a post on "NO!" but it wasn't the same at all. I also have a post almost ready to publish on how emphasis is put on the wrong things in parenting, like baby proofing. So much effort is put into telling kids "no" or disempowering them when less effort could be put forth to help them learn on their own and with guidance to understand how things work. If you allow children the room, they are surprisingly capable a figuring out and understanding these things quickly. Great post. Of course you know that I agree. I sometimes still think of Meredith as that little baby in the video! She’s so adorable.

When I first started reading you post I thought we were on the same weird wave length in that I just finished writing a post on “NO!” but it wasn’t the same at all. I also have a post almost ready to publish on how emphasis is put on the wrong things in parenting, like baby proofing. So much effort is put into telling kids “no” or disempowering them when less effort could be put forth to help them learn on their own and with guidance to understand how things work.

If you allow children the room, they are surprisingly capable a figuring out and understanding these things quickly.

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