Comments on: Distractions

By: AttachedMama

AttachedMama — Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:24:31 +0000

Thanks for the link Amanda. I’ve heard of the Daily Groove and keep meaning to check it out and never really have. I only have the one kid, but I become aware just by being around other people’s children about how different each child is and how important it is to be flexible in our parenting. At first I thought letting Meredith scream and cry while upset went against everything I believed in as a parent, but after reading more about it and also trying it once, I realized that letting her express her emotions is actually really important.

By: Ask Alice

Ask Alice — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 01:26:18 +0000

Sounds reasonable to me. I guess you can’t expect everyone to be 100% happy, 100% of the time – young, teen, old…everyone gets upset!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 21:21:30 +0000

The funny and also irritating thing about having kids 11 years apart is the fact that a lot of what “worked” with my oldest(16 1/2) I am learning is not exactly the best way to approach passionate moments. 16 years ago Dr. sears was just becoming who he is today and one of the things he preached was the art of distraction and how it was important for kids to learn that there are alternatives to the moment. I resonated with this…this is what was available to me at the time and along with breastfeeding, co-sleeping, etc I trusted Dr Sears.
His methods also ‘worked” like a charm with Austen and I very quickly learned that it was not going to work with Jules(5). I thought I had it down.. this parenting thing and then along comes the next child…what a hard reality check for me. I am trying to flow during his outbursts…to be there for nurturing and love while at the same time allowing space to just scream. as difficult as it is it sure feels right. I find the daily groove (http://www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove)
to be very inspirational when it comes to this topic.Thanks for the great post.